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by Don Buttrey |
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Sharpen Your People Skills
Understanding the four habit patterns leads to better working relationships
Corporation builder John Rockefeller once stated that he would "pay more for the ability to deal with people than any other ability under the sun."
Teddy Roosevelt said, "The most important single ingredient to the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people."
A proverb in Ecclesiastes 10:10 says: "If the ax is dull and its edge unsharpened, more strength is needed. But skill will bring success."
Whether you are a manager, salesperson, customer service rep or the president/CEO, people skills are needed to succeed and get the job done. Yet the concept of "people skills" often is elusive. Perhaps it's the complexity of human behavior that makes it so difficult. There are all types of people-people who act and behave differently or have different value systems.
| Wouldn't it be helpful if we had a model to help us make sense of complex people behavior, a simple method that would help us identify, adjust and respond to improve our relationships? In 1928, Dr. William Moulton Marston published a book, The Emotions of Normal People, in which he described the DISC theory. Dr. Marston believed that people tend to learn a self-concept that is basically in accord with one of four factors: |
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| Using scientific observation, the behavior of people can be applied to four styles or habit patterns. With this information, a model can be created to help us understand and be more productive with all types of people. Of course, you can't put people in a box. You can't neatly divide people into four groups. However, the following model can help us simplify complex human beings and understand how to respect different styles and work together. |
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In the Habit Pattern Model, there are two continuums-the horizontal axis and the vertical axis. The horizontal axis describes how a person gets things done, directly or indirectly. Does the person take action or wait and move more slowly? The vertical axis describes how a person shows emotion. Are they closed or open emotionally?
Habit Patterns
By careful observation of people's behavior (verbally, tonally and non-verbally),
you can learn to scope out which quadrant or habit pattern describes the
person. For example, if an individual is very patient, hesitant to speak,
soft-voiced and less assertive, they are on the indirect side of the horizontal
axis. If they are very unemotional and steady, they would be on the closed
end of the vertical axis. This would make them indirect and closed, putting
them in the Evaluator quadrant.
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| Consider those four habit patterns. Where do you land? Can you place co-workers or employees in one of the habit patterns? How can you use this model in a practical way? Begin by taking a brutally honest look at your own behavior. Know your habit pattern and understand the way you are wired. Then become skillful at recognizing the behavior and corresponding habit patterns of others. Learn to respect these other styles and honor their value system and how they do business. Clearly, the habit pattern diagonal to yours is "diametrically different." Typically, that style will conflict with yours. |
Each habit pattern has strengths and weaknesses. No one style is good or bad. People skills require an understanding of your style and the other styles that are different than yours. Flexibility allows you to adjust to improve interactions and establish a more harmonious working relationship. When you adjust your behavior, you relate to people on a level that is acceptable and comfortable with them.
Remember the Golden Rule? "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." Perhaps we missed the fullest meaning intended. Often, we do to others as we want it done to us, when really it means to do to others the way they want it done to them!
